Male chastity from two factors of view.
THE WIFE
I am not a dominatrix, nor a controlling bitch. However my husband wears a cock cage and is just let loose after I resolve, which isn’t typically.
Imagine me, it was his thought!
The difficulty was, he could not be trusted to maintain his cock in his pants, even after we have been married for greater than ten years.
He is an engineer for a corporation making industrial security gear, half promoting, half technical recommendation, so he is typically away from residence for days, typically per week or extra. There was alternative, and he took it. (I am undecided what number of instances.)
Ultimately he admitted it. I forgave him, however it occurred once more.
I will not undergo the reasons, however I ended up crying (once more) and mentioned one thing like “What can I do aside from locking you up?”
He got here again the subsequent day and instructed me about cock cages.
I used to be a bit shocked on the thought, however determined for an answer. And he truly mentioned “Let’s purchase one!”
That is an engineer’s reply – belief in expertise, not folks. He spent a very long time researching (like he does after we purchase any home equipment) and telling me enthusiastically about every one. That was clearly attention-grabbing for him, however not me, and relatively distasteful, truly.
He measured himself rigorously, and I despatched off for the advisable mannequin.
It was stainless-steel, protecting his cock small and pointing downwards. It was locked to a strong ring behind his balls, and solely I’d have the important thing. It seemed horrible, however I realised the gleaming steel would enchantment to an engineer.
We rigorously went via what he referred to as the advisable set up process, which suggests it takes time for the genitals to get used to it over a few weeks. Solely thirty minutes to start out with, and checking for any chafing. I did not like doing it, however I used to be fearful he would possibly harm himself.
Then an hour, then three hours, twelve hours and eventually a day. That was when there was a little bit of a pause because the night time was tough for him, each in mendacity on it, and getting painful erections when he wanted to pee, however finally he managed it.
He was like a child studying to journey a bicycle – desirous to succeed regardless of falling off. I did not perceive it, however I did not must.
Lastly it was on for 3 days, and there was no soreness on the finish. He gave me the important thing then I locked him for 3 extra days.
He’d written a form of contract, transferring possession of his cock and balls to me aside from peeing, and for the cage for use fully at my discretion with no time restrict, and we signed it.
Once more a typical engineer!
Then I unlocked him, we went to mattress and he was very loving, and it was good.
There was a spare key which I despatched to my sister, saying it was for a safety field, and may solely be handed to him in case of my loss of life or hospitalization.
I used to be a bit fearful that it will present via his garments. It definitely gave an even bigger bulge, however he appeared proud of that.
It began with him being caged simply through the working week.
After I despatched for the cage, the corporate provided one thing else which I purchased on the similar time.
Handcuffs.
After I took it off to examine there was no injury midweek, he first had his arms cuffed behind him so he could not fiddle with himself till I would put it again on. Ultimately it appeared that he might hold issues clear sufficient for per week, and I despatched him off with it on a piece journey. When he got here again, I checked him and put it again on for one more week, which he wasn’t anticipating, however took it like a very good sport.
The leaflet mentioned that denial might truly enhance pleasure, and advisable that the key-holder ought to solely permit penetration when she truly wished it, not when he did. In order that’s precisely what I did. Effectively, I gave in just a few instances at first, however he truly appeared happier after I mentioned no. Ultimately he stopped begging, and I relaxed.
It has been a number of years now, and issues are wanting good. He is been away for ten days at a time, and I’ve saved him caged for a month. Child oil helps.
I puzzled at first if he had some secret method of getting out, however now I consider he would not. He is truly tried to defeat himself, by getting the perfect safety!
He was to attempt others, so we now have six! Some steel, some plastic. Some are simpler to maintain clear than others, and a few hardly present in any respect inside his pants (no more than a cock and balls, anyway). I despatched the keys to my sister and instructed her precisely what they have been for. She instructed me ‘properly carried out’, and wished she had the braveness to do the identical.
(Nevertheless it was my husband’s thought. I did not drive it on him.)
I take the cage off a minimum of as soon as per week, and clear it hygienically, in addition to checking for soreness. The steel ones may be boiled. It is often a weekend, which is both a fuck one or no-fuck one. If it is fuck, then it stays off until I’ve had sufficient penetration. In any other case it is solely so long as essential. When he was caged for a month, I checked extra regularly for the final two weeks, however handcuffed him behind, as he was getting determined.
I feel I would do a month once more, however add an additional two weeks when he thinks it is over!
We sleep in separate beds, and we actually solely have intercourse after I need it. He says it’s higher when he lastly does it, and he is extra attentive and loving at different instances. A kiss and a cuddle are sometimes all I would like, however in any other case I am going to encourage him to do some foreplay (with nothing after!) I am getting quite a lot of breast stimulation and he is obtained fairly good at oral. Even when I’ll let him out for a fuck he has to provide me an orgasm first, in order that I am prepared.
He will get pissed off (which is the purpose, I suppose) however my intercourse life could not be higher!
By the best way, I’ve learn that some girls tease and attempt to make him laborious within the cage, however I do not. I do not need to torture him: it isn’t my model. I do not punish him or dominate him in any method. I simply hold my property locked away at any time when I am not utilizing it.
It is humorous, actually. I suppose I used to be a little bit of a prude. He purchased me a vibrator years in the past, however I used to be too embarrassed to attempt it, even after I was by myself. And I definitely prevented fascinated by intercourse toys, although it has been a bit tough to disregard the outlets and the best way they speak about them within the media.
In our love life I by no means got here anyplace close to an orgasm, however I did not thoughts, it wasn’t one thing I fearful about. There was a little bit of foreplay, however by no means sufficient to get me going. I nonetheless loved intercourse, and I preferred how good it was for him. Married life was wonderful, and I’d by no means have requested for the rest.
However I could not bear the considered him with different girls. That is the one cause I went together with one thing so kinky.
I by no means anticipated what occurred. He provides me quite a lot of consideration – virtually making out like youngsters, after which I get oral intercourse and an orgasm a number of instances per week. We have each discovered. His approach has improved, however it’s primarily that I simply give myself as much as the pleasure. I feel I could be getting addicted! I definitely miss it when he is away, which I actually did not earlier than.
To be sincere, it is a lot better than fucking. However I do wish to be penetrated sometimes, and I do love him. Truly I’d be very joyful to have each, and simply cage him when he goes away, however I can see he wants the denial. And it is actually a gadget, which males all the time like.
I feel the best way he loves me is what he desires. It was simply his cock which stopped him. Taking it out of the equation has liberated us each, and channelled his want into actual lovemaking as a substitute of a fast fuck. It is actually beautiful how a lot he desires me, and his satisfaction in my pleasure as a substitute of his.
It is modified me as properly. I suppose our relationship is extra like relationship, earlier than you go the entire method. So I take extra care of my look. I do not lounge round in outdated sweaters and sweatpants however gown like I’d for a brand new boyfriend. We sleep in separate bedrooms, so he by no means sees me with out make-up. I’ve even misplaced weight and acquired some garments that present it. After all since he typically provides me oral, I’ve to have horny underwear and nightdresses. Folks say I look youthful.
We each agree it is good having the arrogance that he can go away and never be capable to stray.
I feel it saved our marriage.
THE HUSBAND
I am a security engineer. Half the job is persuading clients to spend cash in order that nothing occurs. No obvious return on funding. However accidents are costly, and there is information to point out that. Telling people to watch out is just not ok.
I inform them “You may’t belief folks! It’s a must to make it rattling close to inconceivable for them to kill themselves or blow the place up!”
I promote, however I am sincere. I will not suggest one thing the client would not really want, simply to get an even bigger sale. My firm makes good merchandise, and I am joyful to debate them with different engineers and see they’re correctly put in. (You may’t fully belief folks to do this.)
If I am not getting via, typically I am going to faucet my groin with a pen and inform them I am carrying a cock cage. I carry a stainless-steel one with me only for this function. If we have now espresso, then banging it with a spoon works properly.
“My spouse would not belief me. I do not belief me. So we depend on this gear to maintain me secure!”
At the least I get remembered, and I appear to get enterprise.
Yep. I put on a cock cage after I’m away from residence. And in reality more often than not after I’m residence. I am solely let loose when my darling spouse decides. It is a key a part of our marriage. We’re not into femdom. There isn’t any humiliation or punishments: there’s simply this one factor to cease me being untrue. And that features with my hand!
It additionally means we solely fuck at any time when she actually desires it. I used to return a number of instances per week: now it is most likely as soon as in two weeks on common. However after I do it is mind-blowingly good!
The web mentioned we should always have a contract. Now that is one thing I do know properly, so I drew up a correct one.
“Everlasting and irrevocable switch of the male genitals comprising cock, balls and scrotum, and all rights and privileges thereof. Save that the service shall have common use for urination, and shall be required to take care of them in a hygienic situation, all different utilization or none shall be on the discretion of the proprietor, who might utilise such safety procedures and units as she chooses at any time and for a vast interval. The proprietor shall be capable to make use of the property in any method, and the service shall cooperate to the easiest of his capacity at any time.”
Hell, which means she might hit my balls with a bat, however I am not going to level that out!
It additionally means I’m required to chorus from even stroking myself when I’m out of the cage (it is nonetheless her property), however I can not be trusted, so that’s often not longer than a day, and after I’ve had a fuck. (And a hope of one other one earlier than I am locked in.) It comes off each few days for her to examine there is no soreness. She used to handcuff me within the early days to do that, however now I am used to it, we largely do not hassle. (She did for my month of chastity.)
I wasn’t a lot good on foreplay. Now it is primarily what we do, and she or he’s the one who comes a number of instances per week! Simply as a lot as she desires, no extra, no much less.
I wanted it. I was untrue, and never simply the as soon as. I suppose I am not dangerous wanting. I am fairly a very good salesman so know methods to get on with folks and I could not resist a number of the single girls I met when away from residence (or not single, however prepared). I simply could not belief me.
It took some getting used to, however now I can put on it for weeks at a time. I do not thoughts telling you night time time was tough at first, so I wasn’t locked, and took it off after I needed to. It was a matter of satisfaction for me to handle it for twenty-four hours. Then after I managed three days we took it off, cleaned up, and she or he locked it for 3 extra days. I used to be nonetheless OK when she took it off, so we signed the contract, and she or he took cost. After I’m away from residence I am impotent!
I can hold myself clear, however I can not get a correct hard-on. My cock will get uncomfortable then provides up. The one disadvantage is that I can not use a urinal.
We purchased a number of over time, and so they all have plus factors and minus factors. We have solely had one I could not put on, as a result of I am thorough about sizing. “Measure as soon as, make twice: measure twice, make as soon as” I used to be instructed in workshop coaching. Each the cock and the retaining ring have gotten to be proper – not too tight, not too unfastened. (Although I typically needed to contact the corporate to get correct info – the web sites may very well be higher.) Choice, set up and upkeep are all important for proper efficiency of security gear. On this case, lubrication and hygiene are important. (Making ready the bottom is necessary. Shaving helps to cease hairs getting trapped.)
I just like the look of the chrome steel ones, however I’ve to confess the plastic ones are efficient. (I would not purchase chromed metal.) The stainless cages give higher entry for cleansing within the bathe, so the plastic ones are only for shorter journeys. I can put on them indefinitely at residence, as long as they arrive off for cleansing each few days. When she handcuffs me first, I do know I am not getting a fuck, simply one other cage!
I would by no means put on a pink one, however should not have instructed her as a result of she instantly purchased one. I’ve no say during which one she chooses, like I’ve no say when or how lengthy it’ll be on. Nonetheless, she mixes and matches. Generally she’s going to inform me how lengthy, in any other case I simply have to attend till she decides she’d like a fuck.
She was a bit suspicious that I had a way of unlocking it, however we purchased good high quality merchandise and there actually isn’t any method I can get out with out damaging them. (Apart from going to her sister who has spare keys, however she’s a great distance away and has been instructed to not give them to me. She thinks they’re for security deposit containers.) In two instances I obtained higher padlocks than these equipped.
Now my spouse would not have to fret that I’ve fucked another person, and I haven’t got to lie. That is a reduction in itself, as a result of I am mainly sincere, however could not management my cock. Now I haven’t got to: she does.
And at any safety examine, if I make their gear beep I simply inform them straight out. Generally they take me to a different room so I can show it, however I feel it is primarily curiosity. Effectively, if it brightens up their day, that is OK.
It is the identical with girls. I am completely sincere.
If I am away from residence, I do not need to promise something I can not ship. If I’ve a drink or a dance and it appears like there could be extra, I inform them I can not fuck as a result of I am married and carrying a cock cage in addition to a marriage ring.
Truly, that usually pursuits them, and so they need to take a peek. Which means we have now to get a bit personal. And in a clinch they will really feel it in opposition to their pussies. I am certain it turns them on, it is so kinky. I reckon the stainless-steel is essentially the most spectacular, however the pink one most likely will get extra curiosity. In spite of everything, a man would by no means select that, would he? So my spouse actually does have me underneath lock and key!
I’ve loved making out with many extra girls since I obtained my cage, some a number of instances. Largely necking and getting at her tits, however typically extra. Once they know I am secure they do not have to fret, so are simpler! I’ve even been launched to a pal to provide her a number of the similar as properly!
There isn’t any fear on both aspect that I am going to go too far. Sure, it is irritating, however it’s good as properly. And from my aspect there is no probability that she’s going to all of the sudden refuse to go the entire method, and the night will finish on a bitter observe.
That is one thing I’ve discovered. Males need to get to the primary motion as rapidly as doable, however girls want all the opposite stuff, and infrequently that is all they need. Now it is all I can get, so I get pleasure from it, and sit up for my spouse much more. (To not point out the truth that she appears actually sizzling today – brief skirts and tight tops as a substitute of sweatpants at residence, and horny lingerie. I purchase her a few of it, in fact. After we exit, I can inform different males are wanting. She makes me actually pressure in opposition to the cage!)
I am grateful that she taught me to do oral properly, and for the cock cage in stopping me going additional, so I take so long as essential. It is laborious in each senses, however it means I can provide her the pleasure she actually deserves.
In reality, I typically say “I can not fuck, however I give good head.” That is obtained me into just a few bedrooms. They will see I will not all of the sudden cease for a fuck it doesn’t matter what both of us do, to allow them to simply chill out and luxuriate in it. I do not fuck fairly often, however I’ve had much more tits and pussy than I used to.
Once they ask me if it is not irritating, I inform them actually it’s. It is achingly irritating, however I do it as a result of I would like them a lot, which I discover tends to show them on. It is the reality. In reality, I am even hornier than ever with the cage.
One of the best factor of all is the truth that I do not really feel responsible about approaching to different girls.
I can not have an orgasm myself, besides at residence, however I can definitely give them away. And I hold to the contract. My cock and balls are hers alone, so I am not being untrue. I give them a peek, however no touching, and within the bed room I hold my briefs on. (Boxers are too unfastened. The steel ones are heavier, so want some assist, and I’ve to watch out the padlock would not clank. A little bit of silicone rubber tube over it solved that.)
I do not inform my spouse, in fact. I imply, I do not lie, I simply do not point out the whole lot that occurred whereas I used to be away.
She would not fuck fairly often, however she will get quite a lot of orgasms, which is nice for each of us. And I get to go together with different girls in security. Win-win!
I feel our marriage would have blown up if we hadn’t purchased the security gear.
I can not inform you how glad I’m that we did.